Moms need other moms.
Moms need mom lunch dates, morning coffee chit chat, moms night out, momcations and just plain time away from #momlife. I'm a HUGE believer that moms can't be their best selves when they're run down and isolated. We need to connect with other moms, relate, collaborate, bitch and laugh. It is what we need.
Mom friends are essential to a healthy midlife. Because let's face it, we no longer relate to women without children. We need other moms. Moms that also get annoyed by their kids or tired of the housework and excited over the first poop on the toilet or understand the tears at college drop off. We need one another to vent to, to cry with, to laugh at and to just get through this crazy life with. We need to talk about the fun things going on in life, the struggles we're working through and listen without judgement. That is the key. Your mom network should be a safe haven. Free of guilt and judgement.
But don't put all your eggs into one basket. Don't have mom friends only from school or work or the gym. Have a diversified mom group. Mom friends from other schools, with other careers, who live in other towns or even other states. This is necessary in order to avoid living in a mom friend bubble. A bubble of gossip, a bubble lacking experiences and a bubble reducing our ability to extend beyond our own front door. We cannot possibly be friends with everyone, nor would we want to. That's ridiculous. But when you do find the select few good moms that match your personality....hold onto them and make time for them. They are like GOLD.
Yes moms need other moms. Remember....take time for Y.O.U. and invest in good girlfriends. Step away from the house, away from the kids and away from the hubby. Do fun mom dinners, have a book club, FaceTime with someone across state lines because when we are at our happiest selves, we can be the absolute best for our family. From the book The Brave Art of Motherhood, "Be the friend that you need." I think we all need a good Mom friend, or 5! Cheers!
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